关于鲍勃的事

当我’m sure you’ve heard 通过 now, Coach Bob Ernst was fired from the 华盛顿大学 about two weeks ago. In the time since, though part of me still cannot believe it, I have spent a lot of time thinking about how this could have happened, and it what it 意思s.  It has hit me quite personally, and there is no escaping the social media fallout:  there have been a handful of local media 文章s without a lot of details; there have been lots of heartfelt pleas and expressions of disappointment and confusion littering my social media feeds from current and 对于mer athletes. But even with everything that has popped up over the past several days, both pro- and anti-Bob, no one has decisively been able to explain how all of this fell apart, and how one of the most legendary American rowing coaches of all time was fired mid-season after a 对于ty-two year career 在 a NCAA DI program.  As a 对于mer Husky, this matters to me.  As someone who hopes to continue to contribute to the development of young rowing athletes 在 the future, I think this is something that our community can’t afford to ignore.

我首先要澄清与鲍勃的关系。鲍勃是大学男子’我从2002年至2006年在华盛顿大学划船时的教练。他从来不是我的教练(我整整四年都在埃莉诺·麦克埃尔瓦恩(Eleanor McElvaine)的带领下划船),但鲍勃(Bob)知道我是谁,当我们在船屋周围相遇时总是热情和支持。我总能指望他为他加油“What’s up Kalmoe?!”如果我们在科尼贝尔(Conibear)越过小路。我毕业后不久,鲍勃向女性过渡’蒸汽。从那时起,他成为他的工作,始终关注我和我的赛艇事业,并在我在国际舞台上追求自己的梦想时提供无条件的支持。每当他在普林斯顿时,他都会尽力与自己和这里的赫斯基校友建立联系;同样,在鲍勃和车队在奥拉奥林匹克训练中心的丘拉维斯塔举行的年度冬季训练营中,或在我们不常访问西雅图期间,我们都非常重视与鲍勃和车队建立联系。他一直确保Conibear’s的门永远向我们敞开。鲍勃与我们现有的运动员保持联系,并在国家队校友和他的学生运动员之间建立了互惠互利的沟通渠道,与他现有的运动员一起积极激发了对国家队的兴奋和兴趣。我知道,国家母队的华盛顿校友比我们训练中心的任何其他校友都会得到母校更多的定期联系和支持。期。社区和联系是您可以做到的’不能用其他任何东西代替或复制。鲍勃知道。

鲍勃(Bob)让我思考并与之保持联系,并与该节目以及让我爱上这项运动的人们保持联系。他让我想继续参与并在使华盛顿妇女协会中发挥积极作用’s在NCAA中选拔最好的团队。当我在12月的冬令营见到他时,他会很乐意为我提供有关新计划和思想,招聘策略以及他对妇女方向的看法的最新信息’在NCAA中划船。他对建设和重建妇女的承诺和热情’他在华盛顿的丰富经验使他的计划具有感染力,很难以他诚实和务实的态度来启发自己,以在瞬息万变的运动环境中发展一支胜利的球队。鲍勃(Bob)鼓励我考虑在加入国家队后回到华盛顿,以便成为其中的一员。我不能’想不到听起来更有趣或更有意义的事情。

现在我’m 不 so sure.

似乎没有人在谈论的一件事是,这不仅是一件令人惊讶的事件,而且是连续第二个头女’赛艇教练认为,在与运动员们发生了一些摩擦之后,华盛顿大学行政管理部门毫不客气地扔掉了后门。是的,鲍勃的履历比他的前任更重,而且他的表现可能还不错,所以他的辞职很可能会抢走这个节目。但是问题仍然存在,这似乎是Conibear的趋势 —运动员的抱怨导致了鲁,、无懈可击的解决冲突策略,这些策略令人尴尬且完全失控。在鲍勃(Bob)成为我的教练埃莉诺·麦克尔瓦因(Eleanor McElvaine)之前,曾担任华盛顿妇女教练的妇女。埃莉诺本人是一名赫斯基运动员,曾获得过多次全国冠军,她在担任赫斯基新手女子教练之前已经有13年的时间了,然后在2003年晋升为总教练职位。在2007年终止学业之前,她一直将自己的学生运动员经验和职业生涯投入到该计划中。埃莉诺(Eleanor)在扬·哈维尔(Jan Harville)退休后继承了一个挣扎的团队,因此肩负着对女性进行原始翻新的任务’的程序。一路上,她还遇到了异议,不高兴的运动员,他们向体育部门投诉,并最终将她开除。但是似乎没有人在谈论那可能导致这种情况。

令人难以置信的是,像鲍勃这样的人可能会被一个程序设定为在大学赛艇运动中精心组织成功的模式设定标准的程序那么冷淡地解雇,没有人扩大讨论的范围来承认这不是’t just a one-off, it’是一个模式。趋势。如果不加以控制,很快就会流行。华盛顿正在发生的事情比鲍勃所经历的事情要大,这对明矾和赛艇社区中的理想主义者而言令人难以置信,他们希望他们相信我们运动的最好部分正在蓬勃发展,并且不仅受到年轻划船者的灌输和重视,而且正在为计划的未来做出决策的管理员和领导层也受到重视。在NCAA DI女子中没有其他主要选手’s的划船场可以夸耀这一令人屈辱的统计数据:十年来,由于运动员的抱怨,他们的两个家庭成员被解雇了。不是Cal,不是Stanford,不是UVA,Brown,俄亥俄州,普林斯顿或其他任何人。华盛顿是唯一的一个。为什么?

我认为是因为围绕Bob情况的许多细节’终止主要基于运动员的传闻或不实报道,’最终的决定是由谁来为螺旋式上升如此失控的事情负责。我认为,将发生的事情归咎于运动员真的很容易,而且在很大程度上,这就是媒体中发生的事情。但是根据我所知道的,我相信这个方程式中的每个人都会犯错。运动员未能使用适当的沟通渠道来表达他们的疑虑(VBC官员,我在此呼吁您—您的同事将选出您担任这些职位,以承担团队的领导责任。与您的教练坐下来,你们四个人将是参加AD或包括整个团队之前希望举行的任何会议的一个很好的起点。当鲍勃遇到他未曾期望或认可的情况时,他无法控制自己的情绪,无法控制自己的脾气。最后,当一群学生运动员面临压力大,恐惧,令人不快,有缺陷但善意的尝试以改善他们的运动环境时,政府未能为他们的一群学生运动员提供结构和领导能力。对我而言,这是迄今为止该小组中最大,也是唯一不可原谅的失败。

作为管理员,体育部门’s 唯一的工作 是为了确保部门运转顺畅,并确保员工和运动员拥有成功所需的资源。那 ’s it.  One job.  Watch out 对于 your kids and your coaches.  This was a point where athletes needed help navigating a 强硬 situation, and 在stead of providing them with support and guidance through a well-thought-out 处理 of respectful communication and mature conflict resolution, things were allowed to get completely out of control.  And 不 just once, but twice.  This was an important opportunity 对于 our athletic administration to lead 通过 example and thereby demonstrate to our student athletes positive “out of the boat”生活技能。现在,他们从这一切中学到的唯一一件事就是  to have handled this situation, without a clear understanding of what went 错误 and why.
你可以说鲍勃很强壮,如果你愿意的话,运动员们也很屈从。但是教练和运动员之间的摩擦并不能使主管部门无法工作,也无法找到使事情变得可行的方法,即使事情变得艰难。我们希望我们的教练能够从我们的运动员中获得最大的收益,并且我们希望我们的运动员能够做到最好。但是如果他们不这样做,那一切都不起作用’我们没有运动部门,当我们遇到波涛汹涌的水时,他们会竭尽全力来管理事情。

Lastly, I have to add that beyond my frustrations with the athletic 领导ship 在华盛顿, there is something else about this story that bothers me.  It seems there is a second part of the story that no one seems to want to talk about, so I suppose that leaves it up to me: and that is to say that 如果鲍勃一直执教,这一切都不会发生 男运动员。它’我很难说出来,这无疑会引起批评,但我不会’看不到另一种解决方法。在女性为实现性别平等而比以往任何时候都更加艰苦奋斗的时代,尤其是女运动员正在努力争取与男运动员平等的地位,类似的事情发生了…that doesn’不能真正帮助我们的事业。这件事发生在一个船屋里’目前,该队的粪便比该国任何其他划船队(无论是男子还是女子)都更加残酷。我确实支持寻求优质运动教育的运动员,他们认为这种运动是基于勤奋和尊重的基础上。我确实支持寻求改变的运动员,如果他们感到这些期望没有得到满足。但是根据教练的抱怨进行调查“too 强硬”或让运动员负责自己体重等基本的事情… I am very skeptical that administrators would have entertained those complaints coming from 男运动员.  Ladies, if we say we want to be treated equally, we have to 意思 it.  We can’如果我们能够做到,永远都不会期望事情会改变’不能决定要成为女运动员的目标。我们是否想由会带领我们超越极限并有时说我们不做的人的指导?’想听吗?我们是否要在运动环境中仅仅提及体重而停止以饮食不当为威胁的世界人质?我们是否要停止被较小,较慢,较弱的竞争者构成脆弱,情绪歇斯底里的社区?
还是我们想和男孩们划船?

这不是’t about me saying one athlete did or said the 错误 thing and that’s why we’在这里。这是关于解决女运动员作为一个社区的看法的方式,从而改变我们自己和他人对我们的期望。

我不’不想让我的教练那样跟我说话,因为你不应该’这样的教练女人。 

我不’不想让我的体重成为话题,因为我们不应该’t talk about women’s bodies.

我们可以’t keep existing 在side these outdated 不ions of what it 意思s to be a woman 在 sport.  And our athletic 领导ship shouldn’也不要继续让我们的女运动员这样做。

我不’不要将此条目视为亲鲍勃或反鲍勃。它’不支持或反对华盛顿大学。这是职业运动员。亲学习。亲问责制。它试图从似乎毫无意义的东西中弄清楚。它’对有缺陷的系统的失望。它’s frustration at my own 在ability to change it. I know there are a lot of people out there who have taken sides and are pro- or anti- lots of things because they are angry, and hurt.  But I encourage  you to direct that energy 在 to things that can have a positive and lasting impact on the quality of experience our student athletes are getting at Conibear, and everywhere 在 the 超宽 体育部.  Think about what that might 意思, 对于 you, and then respond.  Because as 哈士奇犬, that’s我们所做的:我们做出回应,我们不做出’t react.

我对2016年哈士奇犬女性的最良好祝愿– who have 真实ly only left themselves one option 通过 which to define their 遗产:  Win.  Win everything.

祝好运。

梦想万岁,

–MK

 

 

31 responses to “关于鲍勃的事

  1. 说得好,发自内心!

    Even 对于 an ousider like me a good explanation what went 错误. And so much wasted energy. But maybe the time 对于 you and your lessons learned session.

    Finally it might have opened a door 对于 someone else 在 a better administration – even 对于 you and your talents beyond competitive rowing at the right time.

    Good luck 对于 your way 在 2016 and beyond the olympics !

    非霍乱,sed vitae!

  2. Really excellent piece: and without casting stones this is a bigger problem 在 higher education. The Laura Kipnis Title IX case at Northwestern, 触发 warnings, safe spaces at public talks 通过 scholars. You name it: it is like 女权主义 run amok, rather than giving women pride and making us resilient as it did back 在 the 1980s. 什么 to do? I agree it is a 领导ship problem.

  3. Thanks so much 对于 this 文章. In this day and age, it seems that being offended has become the trump card. The minute anyone says “I’m offended”,不知何故,那个人变得正确。我们需要了解,有时候,为了实现个人成长,我们需要接触那些’专注于我们已经相信的东西。我一直在教室和教练中看到这一点。当然,我’ve only been at it 对于 10 years, but the default response to being challenged has become “This is 错误!” We need to be better about teaching people to save those comments 对于 when it 真实ly, truly, matters

  4. Well said Kalmoe. You were always a 对于ce to be reckoned with. While I agree with all that you have said, I believe that it’还值得一提的是,’在男子团体中发生的事情不是因为他们不是严格管制的NCAA运动,因此据我所知’成为与妇女同样严格,无常的规则和要求的受害者’s team does. 我不’相信(尽管我可能会误会),人们通常以完全相同的方式或以同样的崇敬态度对待合规性问题和风险。

    否则,我完全同意。鲍勃成为无法原谅任何人的无可辩驳的过程的受害者。正如我通常认为的女权主义者一样,我担心与鲍勃和埃莉诺相关的影响是一个社会的消极影响,这个社会已经变得恐惧和防御“feelings”和诉讼。而且’s damaging.

    Thank you 对于 adding your voice and perspective. It enriches the discussion 对于 all of as alums and I believe will make a difference.

  5. Nice piece. Pro-athlete, Pro-learning and Pro-accountability, it was all that. Thirty-Five years of butt-kicking post-collegiate education and a successful, but brutally hard professional career, I have collegiate rowing to thank 对于 helping me suck it up and thrive during the worst times. Tragic that today’至少在威斯康星大学以及其他地方的女子赛艇运动员都要求我打双重标准。得益于体育部门的努力,西弗吉尼亚大学女子划船者本可以学到的艰辛的划船课程将使她们在报仇时受到报复。“real” life begins.

  6. Well written! Eleanor is an 在credible coach now at Mt. Baker, and though it seems like a fall from greatness, she is still resilient and a strong 领导 在 her own right.

  7. 梅根,我’我要恭敬地不同意。我的证书:大学赛艇运动员,赛艇教练,裁判。一世’从事这项运动已有25年了。如果你没有’不采取安全运动(它没有’听起来像你有),你 ’并没有真正参与实际发生的对话。几年来的研究已经显示出令人不安的模式。处于独特地位以影响儿童和年轻人情感发展的教练,在脾气暴躁时会造成重大伤害’t control and say things that are 在tended to demean. THAT is the conversation. can say a coach was kind to you and followed your career. But 那没有’隐含地证明他不是’虐待他人,甚至虐待您。

    Coaches who are abusive can get away with it 对于 decades. They are often highly successful. But success 在 this context is being redefined to 在clude whether you hurt people along the way. “要制作煎蛋卷,您必须打碎一些鸡蛋” isn’对不起,这是教孩子的方法。

    而你实际上是在责怪她们,那些胆量大的妇女敢于站出来面对一个高大的权威人物,并请他考虑改变一些使a)困扰她们和b)客观上有问题的东西,而他不仅拒绝讽刺地发脾气,不是一次,而是两次。一世’我什至没有解决他所从事的违反规则的行为,这也使政府陷入了非常困难的境地。

    Bob could have responded so differently. He could have said he might have been coaching 对于 a long time but he still has things to learn, and coaches should be learning from their athletes just like the athletes learn from their coaches. He could have stopped and said to himself times have been changing and maybe I need to change too.

    您责怪运动员,然后又责怪政府。但是请考虑一下他的职位;他断然拒绝参与对话,无论鲍勃还是你,不管你喜欢与否,这种对话一直在发生,因为美国游泳中的虐待丑闻几乎摧毁了这个国家体育机构。

    阅读有关此内容。然后去找Mizer,如果她’ll talk to you. Imagine the conversation with her. Ask her how hard it was to go as a sophomore to the national team summer camps, how she experienced different coaching there and how she came to 真实ize that Bob’s temper and behavior was actually abusive and was causing a problem, how hard it must have been 对于 her to try to have a conversation with him about it, how she felt when he threw her off the team or she chose to leave because of how he responded to her query.

    Mizer是我们应该听的。鲍勃应该有。

    链接:
    http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2015/03/the-real-bullies-at-school/387829/

    http://www.outsideonline.com/o/outdoor-adventure/water-activities/swimming/The-Sex-Abuse-Scandal-Plaguing-USA-Swimming.html

    http://www.sportpsychologytoday.com/youth-sports-psychology/how-bully-coaches-affect-athletes-mental-game/

    http://www.safe4athletes.org/blog/item/15-confronting-sexual-abuse-and-harassment-by-sport-coaches-a-need-for-a-national-effort

  8. 鲍勃(Bob)在大学第一年是我的新生划船教练。我曾经是HS的高尔夫球手,当时没有划船或其他困难的运动。从零开始,到赛艇比赛,他使我看到辛勤的工作和专注力转化为与志趣相投的运动员一起坐在快艇上的座位。他清楚地传达了何时有人在动船,何时有人在动船的信息。 ’t。划船的主要比赛是个人的内部活动。餐桌上的每一个动作,每一个动作,每一次举动和每一次咬伤都算在内。我们以为他专注于绩效,但事实证明,他专注于我们在解决问题上的成功。那么,我们还是不让教练陷入困境?如果这样做,我们就会失败,因为我们专注于关系问题而不是绩效。因为鲍勃’的影响力我总是觉得我可以在几乎每种情况下都能坚持不懈,或解决问题,或学习自己的极限。他的课程(和划船’s lesson still and always) was to overcome limits and limited thinking. Tough? Yep. Fair? Well, how bad do you want to be 在 a fast boat with fast athletes? 什么, or who, would you let stop you? Look 在 the mirror, and 不 at the coach…

  9. 一位教练的抱怨“too 强硬” – is this a direct quote? And if so, from who? 我不’t believe that any of the current team members have been quoted as saying this. The 真实 reasons behind complaints have also 不 been released 通过 any of the parties directly 在volved. So as to how everyone has decided the women complained he is 太强悍 I am 不 sure. A lot of this has been taken from news and media 在formation, 不 from anyone 在volved.

  10. 您能够准确地说出我对这种情况以及整个Eleanor的看法。当她开始执教大学运动队时,我就加入了球队,而女孩们对她的态度让我很不安,以至于最终成为我停止与球队划船的重要原因。他们没有与她保持联系,而是在她身后秘密开会,像中学生一样在后面抱怨,然后当然,这总是使事情看起来比所需要的更加生动。它不成熟,与生产力相反。我爱威斯康星大学,我仍然在每个地方的比赛中欢呼来为车队提供支持,但是那时我感到非常失望,现在我也同样感到沮丧。
    You are right, the maturity and proactive problem solving needs to be led 通过 the 体育部. A team could be able to handle it themselves with strong 领导s and good communication, but if they are lacking 在 those qualities they need help from those 在 charge.
    Thanks 对于 your 文章. I coach a high school girls crew team and I am going to share this perspective with them.
    恭喜您取得圆满成功!

  11. You have nailed it. I had come close to the same conclusion regarding the AD and associates, but I was unaware of the history wherein Bob is the second one to get the axe. A nicely written 文章 that may cut uncomfortably close to what is 错误 在华盛顿. I hope the President and the AD are paying attention!

  12. 我喜欢您以一种更加公正的方式解决了这个问题,但是我仍然觉得您在没有任何运动员的情况下就已经解决了这个问题。我在高中时与之划船的团队中有朋友,我可以’t imagine any one of them being so dramatic as to approach a situation like the team did, or even have a problem with the coach unless it was REALLY bad, and every one of them would have said something to mediate such a dramatic reaction. Now I can only say that about a handful of people because 我不’我不认识其他赛艇运动员,但我’我仍然只是不满意。我不得不说,我宁愿先阅读本文而不是《西雅图时报》。

  13. 我认为,这会改变您女儿的决定是错误的。每个团队都有问题,有些只是更加公开。它’s a 强硬 decision to make, I can’t speak 对于 swimming, but rowing is a love that many never let go of, I’d说它几乎是一种瘾,在爱它和不喜欢它之间没有任何东西。给她带来好运,没有多少人能得到这么大的机会!

  14. 当场在卡尔莫女士上。平衡并说出自己是真正的赛艇运动员。我曾在莫斯科为GB的女性做过教练,很有趣的是,过去30年中桨女运动员的心理发展情况。与团队合作相比,他们现在对个人绩效的思考要多得多。在莫斯科,大多数人倾向于划船“for” their “leader”(coach) and now, like men, it is 对于 themselves. I particularly like the knocking of the weight issue which as any rower knows is a key selection criterion. The very idea of politically correct banning of weight taking and publicising shows how far removed they are from a winning attitude.

  15. 梅根,像往常一样伟大。我认为您在代表各方方面做得很好。我可以’在运动部门上与您更多地同意’s (“AD”)角色及其无法管理这些类型的冲突。但是,我不确定我是否同意这个问题不会发生’蒸汽。几年前,哥伦比亚大学的两名教练(男女)都被运动员解雇了。’投诉人向AD提出类似问题。抱怨不仅来自运动员,而且据称还来自其父母?他们的解雇对哥伦比亚有何帮助’蒸汽?鲍勃会如何’终止帮助WU?你是对的,他们的遗产必将赢得–win everything.

    如果这种趋势继续下去,那么什么著名的教练会担任这些职位?一罐’t deny that these colleges are feeder programs 对于 national team athletes–what does the future hold 对于 the US 在ternationally?

  16. Thanks 对于 a thoughtful well written piece. It brought up two thoughts:
    (1)体重调整后的erg得分。一位重量轻巧的人在选拔营中尝试重型船只,我对主教练使用重量调整后的erg分数深表感谢。后来我才意识到,重量调整后的erg分数对于所有划船者(无论是男性还是女性),无论体重轻便,都是有意义的。这也将大惊小怪“body image”实际上,这是使船尽快从A驶向B的主要因素是力量。显然是运动生理学家’应当帮助确定目标重量,使重量不至于降低功率/耐力。
    跟踪体重本身是确定运动员是否过度训练或生病的极其有用的指南。
    (2)定期与个别运动员举行教练会议,讨论他们的表现如何以及他们需要在哪些领域进行进步。我看到了这个动作,教练指出运动员确切知道他们在啄食顺序中的位置:这些会议使他们确信教练也知道。明智的做法是,让第三方不直接参与会议室以保持事物凉爽,并作为所说内容的见证人,以防万一出现分歧。

  17. 什么 has happened is a loss 对于 the Washington 划船 program. It’s a loss 对于 the coxswain Marlow Mizer, and a loss 对于 the Ernst family. I suspect that only the most cynical of athletes are celebrating what has happened, and 在 the midst of it all I have no idea whose fault it is.

    Winning this year would be nice I suppose, but 我不’认为华盛顿代表了‘winning at all costs’ mentality. On the contrary, my understanding of the Washington tradition is that it stands 对于 much loftier ideals like self sacrifice, obedience, teamwork, and sportsmanship.

    因此,我们今天表示哀悼,但是随着日子的流逝,以及随着孩子们继续学习划船和团队合作的基本知识,华盛顿大学肯定会重拾划船的乐趣,甚至可能赢得了一些比赛。

  18. 我很高兴阅读您的文章,这是一次完美的失误风暴。但是,我’m confused what you 意思 that this would have never happened to the men’蒸汽。我感到被抓。您是否认为应该’t demand respect, while simultaneously being challenged to excel? Do you 意思 that we should want to row with the boys? Is the model male defined? If we want to take ourselves seriously we should be more like men? I respect Bob Ernst 对于 what he has given to the sport of rowing. He has shown the way 对于 many an athlete, like yourself. Please clarify. 我不’认为没有女人认为自己脆弱或歇斯底里…但是有些人肯定会想那样旋转。感谢您开始对话。

  19. 很棒的帖子。只见了鲍勃和妇女成员’s team once, however he was very gracious and concerned 对于 the 在dividuals 在 the boat. Hopefully he will be able to catch on with another program and continue to share his experience, men or women.

  20. I’m late to the party on this, having just seen that Bob Ernst was fired a few months back. I just wanted to say thank you 对于 such a thoughtful 文章. As a lifelong Husky and ’83 grad who knows a little about leading people, I am ashamed of the way the 超宽 administration handled this. At the very least, a 领导ship teaching opportunity was lost and it appears, 在 fact, that a complete lack of 领导ship was bluntly demonstrated 在stead. Sadly, it seems that this is becoming the norm 在 American society. I would like to think we 哈士奇犬 are better than that.

  21. 劲爆’78
    鲍勃是我的新生教练。几年前,时代和人们在变化,但是我在Bob的经历始终是积极,令人难忘,树立个性和尊重的。永不霸道或过分要求。他深知我们的利益,他动手了,是认识并关心我们的游戏教练的负责人。是的,有动力,但也充满幽默和轻松的时刻。我们一直都是团队。这来自所有相关人员。我们所有人都有工作要做,以改善身体状况和个人状况。如果我们选择为学生和运动员的旅程的各个方面付出努力和承诺,他将帮助我们找到工具。这是一个艰难的平衡。

    大约三十年后,我回到大师赛艇时,遇到了几次偶然的机会。在我们不时进行互动时,在划船活动和水上锻炼中,鲍勃的举止相同。我可以’t speak to the issue more than to say that Bob has always been what I would want 在 a coach, 对于 me, my children (if they were rowers) and my friends. Sad to see such a disappointing action taken 在 haste.
    Thank you 对于 the well written and thoughtful comments, Megan.

  22. 我和鲍勃一起在Irvine的大学校园里划船,并在空军中担任过同一个救援队的成员。我们的韧性和适应能力指导者/大师/教练是一位名叫埃德·纽兰德(Ed Newland)的著名水獭教练(当然这要与我们的划船教练杜瓦尔·赫克特(Duval Hecht)的优雅相提并论。诗人叶芝(Yeats)。鲍勃(Bob)拥有所有这些元素,尽管大部分都是纽兰德(Newland)风格,再加上他自己干燥,脚踏实地,偶尔会变得粗鲁的性格,对我来说,挑战包括两个部分:一是女人与男人不同,女孩与男孩不同。女人需要比较细腻的技能’我自己教过女人‘and found Newland’我个人非常佩服这种刻板的方法,不适合与女孩打交道。另一方面,今天发生了一些令人不安的事情’在世界范围内,令人着迷的标题事物不仅是都市神话。学生被教师解雇‘trigger’ words, 对于 being ‘mean’, 对于 having the ‘wrong’政治或宗教观点,说出或做的任何事情都会破坏学生的脆弱感受。严厉的指示正迅速成为虐待的代名词,这种情况在全国各地都在发生。什么是大学,但是一个学习,挑战,学习学科,扩展大学的地方’的前景。我个人说融化雪花。 Tropuble是,这个问题在政治上非常敏感,’很难找到愿意或可能支持老师/教练的主管部门。我的妻子凯伦(Karen)是现代海岸警卫队中第一位合格的女子救生游泳选手–最近是第一任院长。她在全国各地讲课,要点是–当然,传统男人应该允许女人’她的军事角色,例如战斗,特种部队等等。但是,只有在不给他们以轻便待遇的情况下,男人,课程和身体训练才变得容易,否则,不仅使他们和他们的队友在真正的任务中处于危险之中,而且还贬低了平等的观念。她对扮演少女牌的女孩或女人没有耐心。不在她的世界里。我的最后一口?变化的时代。一方面要学习与今天不同的交流方式’其次,如果一个人想获得诚实的成功,在划船或其他方面的努力,则不要让他们脱离真正的努力。

    • 好吧,BLV。作为“guy 在 the back” of that first UCI Varsity team I observed Bob from my 对于ward facing seat and later both of you jumping out of my airplane when I was the “guy 在 the front”。鲍勃从来不是船上最大的人,也不是技术最好的人,但没有人比鲍勃对水更感兴趣。这种激情一直延续到他在西澳大学的42年,有时是我旅行的那段时光,这使我带到西雅图,在我们的简短会议和对话中总是充满激情。

  23. Megan, this post came up on my facebook feed today (facebook is creepy that way) so I read the whole thing again. I had the honor of meeting you last summer when I was 在 Henley 对于 a reunion of old teammates, and I’ll say again what I said then, yours were the most succinct, right-on and admirable comments 在 the midst of this controversy. For this and 对于 all you’ve done, I’我很荣幸成为您的赫斯基伙伴。
    沃克’79

  24. Megan, This is a late entry, but 对于 some reason Bob was on my mind and I was 对于tunate to find your post. I hope all is well with him. Your comments are from the heart and on point. I wish my writing skills were as excellent as yours–Good 超宽 education.

    我为海军轻量级赛艇划船,并很幸运有机会在1980年代中期与赫斯基·罗宁(Husky 划船)志愿服务,主要是当时的轻量级计划。我很幸运能够在迪克·埃里克森(Dick Erickson)的指导下成为志愿者,并从鲍勃·恩斯特(Bob Ernst)和扬·哈维尔(Jan Harville)学到了很多东西。伟大的人们,伟大的计划。我想在上面的帖子中指出的一点是“leadership style.”尽管我离西雅图很远,但据我了解,领导风格会引起问题。所以问题是:要使用什么合适的领导风格?我在海军上的真正工作围绕领导力来完成我被分配执行的任何职责,因此我确实有一些经验。我也可以说,我对与Dick,Bob和Jan等伟人一起工作的领导层学习得最多,虽然风格各异,但都成功了。哪一个最有效?哄骗,贬低,支持,强硬,控制,鼓励等?答案是可行的。视情况而定,所有样式都是正确的。与我合作过的最好的领导者可以使用任何样式,并使其可信。真正的关键是知道何时采用样式,’这不是一门科学,但它是一门艺术,其中涉及对团队中个人的任务和心理的完全了解。新手赛艇营的领导力与精英赛艇营的领导力要求不同。 (顺便说一句,如果我不允许抽烟,我指导的一个划船俱乐部的一名船员会开除我!有趣的是,这是所有女性 ’的船员,他们年纪大了但很坚强。

    My fear is 对于 the athletes who were 在 the 处理 of learning great things while trying to focus on making a boat move fast. I’m afraid they may have learned how to manipulate rather than adjust to a 领导ship style. This technique is often destructive to an organization. A manipulator does 不 last long 在 a successful organization, and if that is the lesson learned 通过 that particular crew then they will have problems 在 the future. My sincere hope is that I am off base 在 this assumption.

    I’ve said enough, but close with a wish that Bob be blessed with continued success as he has enjoyed 对于 the majority of his career, and may you always be associated with fast boats.
    USNA加里·哈雷尔(Gary Harrell)’76; 超宽 ’85

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